First of all, it amuses me greatly when people use Ephesians 5: 24 to make some sort of radical feminist case. Here for your reading pleasure:
24 As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands.
You can easily see how verse 24 standing on its own seems extremely troubling, especially with our modern sensibilities. And self-proclaimed pro interpreters of the Bible whose own interpretive authority eclipses everyone else’s never seem to read on towards my next favorite passage:
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 Even so husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no man ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, and I mean in reference to Christ and the church; 33 however, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
We have such crappy examples in our culture of what love is and how to love. I grow weary of the unsatisfying examples of love that I encounter out there because it’s not what I yearn for, and it’s not how I want to love others.
Then I look to Christ. I see how He loved the Church, His Bride.
Through everything He taught…through His sorrowful Passion and death…We, as Christians, have the model of authentic, real, genuine love. Self-sacrificial love. A love that is absolutely free, total, faithful, and fruitful.
As I desire to be a husband and father one day, I know that I genuinely desire my future wife’s ultimate good, no matter my cost. I want to love her just as Christ loves His Church.
No amount of shades of grey will ever satisfy my pursuit of Love.
So I look to the Cross, the crucifix…to Christ. There, I can ponder the mystery of Love, to know Love, to receive Love…and because of all this…I desire to share that Love.
Lord Jesus Christ, you gave your life for us, your Church, as an act of your infinite love. A love that is truly free, total, faithful, and fruitful. A love that bears great fruit. I pray for the grace to look to You and to love like You. Teach me how to love others, and by Your holy will, my future wife too.
We adore You, O Christ, and we bless You, because by Your holy Cross, You have redeemed the world.
Christ on the cross from The Passion // DSD O’Connor’s blog